Trauma and Love Bombing

Everyone has some form of trauma. Regardless of what type of trauma you have, the trauma will make itself known in your body. Do you ever wonder why when you look at your past intimate partner’s face, that it triggers an uncontrollable reaction to hold your breath or feel a grip in your chest? That is trauma stress. Unresolved grief or loss makes its way into a bodily reaction.

The reason you come to therapy is heal the trauma stress that weighs you down emotionally and physically. With therapy, you discover that your symptoms of fatigue, deep overwhelming sadness or anxious worry thoughts that makes concentrating difficult to be manageable. In time, you will grow the habit of using tools that you learned in therapy to enhance your resiliency .

Your participation in your therapy will support you in your transformation from feeling hopeless around your trauma response to gaining a sense of mastery over the trauma stress and self-regulation.

Trauma is generally an unanticipated event or it can be a series of hurt that continues incrementally through one’s childhood or during an intimate relationship. One feels overwhelm because of the emotional overload which have a heavy load on the brain, body and spirit. Many people cope by blocking the memory, but the memory has a way of creeping back up in unexpected places.

Having trauma can make one susceptible to love bombing.

Do you know what love bombing is? It’s prevalent in dating especially in the digital age where it is so easy to bombard the person with false promises of love and devotion. People prone to it are the ones who are lonely, low self-esteem and had parents who did not model good healthy relationships. The person who love bombs ignores your boundaries and gives unreliable expressions of love. The recipient of the love bombing is left confused and does not rely on their own intuition to know better that this kind of love is not sustainable and real. The love bomber reinforces the belief in you that you should not trust your own feeling that what the love bomber is doing doesn’t feel right. So, you stay. I’m here to tell you that you can learn to not get caught in the trap of the love bombing. You are actually going through trauma of not feeling like you deserve healthy and true sense of intimacy. You don’t have to believe what the love bomber tells you is love and yet, it may be hard to not. Please seek therapy and support to gain clarity and strength to walk away from this traumatic relationship of false sense of intimacy and love.